Love. And Be There.

These days something magical happened in my life. I fell in love again.

I had so much plans with my life. I wanted to be an expert in Computer Science, wanted to reach my goals that I set up at the beginning of the year, I created a future in my head that it was worth living for. But now my world shaked. Like Freddy Mercury would say: “Nothing really matters.”

The first thing I want to emphasize: I learned something new about life. Life is about living. What does that mean? It means that there is nothing but the present moment. The present moment is the only thing that is real. All other things like thoughts in your mind about the present and the future are just an illusion. But these thoughts are manifested in all of our heads. We all think many times a day about whatever comes to our minds. But being totally present is feeling the outside world – interacting with it.

The Power Of Now

I would lie if I told you that I came to this conclusion by myself. As most of the times, I gained these insights from reading. I have always been interested in enlightment. I always wanted to know what it is about, what it means to be enlighted. Some people say it is the absence of pain, some say it’s finding inner peace. Eckhart Tolle (In his magical book “The Power Of Now”) describes it as being totally present. Being present, being as a feeling of oneness. Combining the inner self and the outer world to one total being.

So how can you become present? And how can you stay present? There are many ways to do this. First you could just sit and look around. Notice the sounds that surround you. Then notice the silence between the sounds. Don’t think about it – feel it. Let your body relax and feel the air around you, smell the scents, feel your body. What does your body say to you?

There are so many ways to feel the present moment. These ways can be described as portals to enlightment. Music is a powerful way to become present. Just play your favorite song (best with headphones) and feel the vibrations in your ear. Let the music play your ear drum. Maybe you notice that you’ve never felt music like this before.

But where is the love? Is being present everything you need to be fulfilled?

The Art Of Loving

“All You Need Is Love” you hear the Beatles say, and they’re sort of right. Nobody wants to live in a cold, empty, loveless place. Love is the answer and love can heal the world. And there are many ways of loving.

Again, this awareness not just blew up in my head, it came by reading. Erich Fromm, a german psychoanalyst and social philosopher, wrote a meaningful book about what it means to love: “The Art Of Loving”.

One short reference from his findings: “Because modern humans are alienated from each other and from nature, we seek refuge from our lonesomeness in romantic love and marriage (pp. 79–81).” However, Fromm observes that real love “is not a sentiment which can be easily indulged in by anyone.” It is only through developing one’s total personality to the capacity of loving one’s neighbor with “true humility, courage, faith and discipline” that one attains the capacity to experience real love. This should be considered a rare achievement (p. vii).

Furthermore: “The Art of Loving argues that the active character of true love involves four basic elements: care, responsibility, respect, and knowledge (p. 24). Each of these is difficult to define and can differ markedly depending on the people involved and their circumstances. Seen in these terms, love is hard work, but it is also the most rewarding kind of work.”

Love is about self-love, about love to others, about love between children and parents, about symbiosis and about mature love. Love can be felt, not thought.

Pleasance – Love and Presence

For my understanding these topics are very important. If you know what love really is (and maybe also important what it is not) you are able to feel joy, happiness and inner peace. I hope you once feel these feelings like I felt the last couple of days.

If I could recommend you only two books, it would be these two. I am positive if you become able to love (yourself and the world around you) and become able to be present, you will inspire people around you and they will feel change. Love and Presence is the key for taking the right path in life. In this sense, thank you for reading this and have a pleasant day 🌞